I was recently ask the question, Cynthia, do you have any regrets? The first thing that came to mind was absolutely yes. However, I did not answer right away, I thought about it for a minute. When I took a little time to think about it I was surprised that my answer was no. The reason my answer was no, is because everything that has happened in my life, was either not my fault, a result of a decision I made, or my decision was interrupted by a plan God had for my life. With that said, no need for regrets.
Allow me to break it down a bit further, the decisions I made for myself throughout my life time were not always the best choices. However, the ones that turned out not to be good for me turned into learning experiences of what not to do again. haha I’m a firm believer that as long as you learn from your mistakes then the experience was not a total waste of time. We are flawed humans so not all decisions are going to be perfect, because of that fact, we should give ourselves a break, pick ourselves up and keep it moving. Another reason I believe we should not stress over the bad decision is, we probably knew it was bad choice when we did it, but we did it anyway because it’s what we wanted to do. (or is that just me) I’ll go ahead and raise my hand first on that one no shame here. I made a decision to date someone who I knew was not good for me but hey, like I said earlier, at the time it was what I wanted to do, after it ended badly I learned from it, and married someone the complete opposite.
Then of course there were decisions I’ve made that I would consider the best choices I could have ever made for myself. For instance, although reluctant, the decision to be obedient to God and write a book. That was a two-fold choice because it falls in the category of God derailing my decision. It was never in my plans to become an author or blogger. Writing a book however, has opened many doors that allow me to walk in my purpose, and help others as well as aid in my own healing. I now have the opportunity to go on speaking engagements to tell my story to ladies young and old and encourage them not to be ashamed of their past. I also let them know the things that happened to them against their will were not their fault, and that God has a purpose and, a plan for their life. I also feel that in doing this I can show them living proof that there is life after abuse and that God uses the situation for his glory, also that their freedom and healing begins with them talking about the very thing that has them bound.
I’ll bet if I were to ask you the same question, do you have any regrets? The first thing that may pop in your mind is yes also, but I urge you to give it some thought, and if you think about it your answer will be no as well. Like me you probably did what you wanted to do at the time. Or maybe you are one who something happened to you against your will and it’s not your fault. With that said there’s no reason for regret, and if it wasn’t your fault allow God to heal you, and let it go. Some things happened to be used as a learning experience if you learned the lesson then it’s all good. Some things had to happen to get you to your purpose in life. If there is something you want to do then do it, don’t allow any decision or anything in your past keep you bound and unable to move forward. Whatever you do in life, do it, with no regrets. Life can be short so live it to the fullest, eat the ice cream.